"FOOLS GOLD"

Over and over again I find myself becoming irritated while browsing my news feed on Facebook, or even my timeline on Twitter, for the simple fact I am tired of reading statuses like this... " don't worry about what's going on over here, WE GOOD, can't you hoes see that he using y'all, he know where home at, LoL @ you clowns, who mad? Bitch you." Really? Did you really just point out that he was using her? So what do you think is going on with you and him then? I find myself doing something that I would recommend a lot of people to start doing, and that's READING what I typed into that box, analyzing it, and editing what I wrote before I press that share button. Once that share button is pressed, guess what? You are now the new prey for another piece of fools gold. I find myself puzzled about those type of statuses all the time, so I figured that I would help you out and realize what's happening to you from a males perspective, instead of allowing you to continue to roam around in Oz on your own.

First and foremost, social networks are not the place to air out your relationship drama, I'm not going to lie, I sit back and laugh sometimes at the things I read, but once I sit down it let the ignorant and naive status sink into my head, all I can do is hang my head in shame. The reason I shake my head is because when I think back in history to Harriet Tubman, Rosa Parks, Madame C.J. Walker and Maya Angelou, those were strong BLACK WOMEN, who stood on their own and made the decision to revolutionize African American history. So when I see a young black woman destroying herself and being stepped on, it bothers me, because I can admit that BLACK WOMEN are the strongest creatures in the universe. So for a young black woman to sell herself short in life and settle to be treated like nothing is a slap in the face to those STRONG BLACK WOMEN who paved the way for you.

"THAT'S MY WIFEY" or "I'M WIFEY" is an expression that is used on a regular basis within African American relationships, but let me break something down to you ladies, don't embrace that title as "wifey" because it's not as sacred as you believe. When a man introduces you ashis "wife" then embrace that title. Let me give a male conversation I'm going to use the names Joe and Fred as examples.

Joe: you still trying to hit the club tonight
Fred: hell yeah! We got to fall through there, cause I know it's go be a lot of bad chicks ready to get it.
Joe: aight that's what's up, you dressed already? If so I'm bout to scoop you up
Fred: yeah I'm ready, ay you got some condoms in case something jump off tonight
Joe: yeah I got a pack in the glove box
Fred: aight bet, you can come scoop me, but let me hit the wifey up real quick, then we can bounce.
*pause*
what I'm getting at is that usually if a man refers to you as wifey, you're basically his main girl. Yes he loves you, he might even shed a few tears if you guys broke up, but at the end of the day, he is going to do whatever he wants, with who he wants, however he wants, then come home and lay with you...Yikes! One thing you have to realize is a man will tell you anything you want to know by his conversation and how he introduces you. Maybe some women like those type of relationships and if so, then this is not for you, but for the ones that want more out an relationship than an STD, heartbreak, or drama over someone you thought was only yours, listen to your mates introduction of you and you will figure out what the relationship is before it even begins.

I can tell you these things, because I was that guy, I have played that role in my life, I can admit that, but I grew up and realized two things, one is God don't like ugly, I don't believe in Karma, but I do believe in the wrath of God and he will get his point across to you, secondly I realized that one day I will maybe have a daughter and I wouldn't want her treated the way that I was treating women, nor would I want my mom treated bad.

Gold is a very prized possession,for instance, if you had on your gold chain and you mistakenly broke it, you would be upset right? Well why not treat yourself like a piece of Gold? Treat your heart like a piece of Gold, because when you chase behind a fool, your gold becomes...

"FOOLS GOLD."